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Every time we blame someone or something for what is happening in our life, we lose a little part of ourselves because we give our power away. It’s as if those outside of us control our reactions and thus our sense of happiness. Rather than doing this, I invite you to listen to your words as you describe situations that are not to your liking. Do you place the responsibility of how you are feeling on the shoulders of someone else or do you look at how your responses to the situation activated the results? In other words, are you a victim to your circumstances or are you the victor? While there are times that we are victims to our circumstances, that is, not having control over things outside of us, as we become more aware, part of our responsibility is to honor that and move forward in a way that gives us the opportunity to move beyond the point of collapsing. So how does one get started? It begins with becoming aware of how you feel when a situation happens. This requires being honest with one’s self. That is, what was your part in the situation and how did you respond it? If you responded in a way that was proactive, taking full responsibility for your response, then you are being accountable. If you responded reactively, and blamed the other person for the outcome, feeling the victim, how much responsibility are you taking? With that in mind how could you turn that around and take responsibility? To do this means practicing self-honesty and awareness to what your response was. With practice and small steps, it becomes easier to notice what your part was. Remember to practice compassion, patience and gentleness with yourself as you begin this wonderfully liberating action towards self-responsibility.  FREE teleclass: "Honoring Your Past So that you may Embrace This Moment and Step Confidently into Your Future" http://totheheartofthematter.com/teleclass/Add this page to your favorite Social Bookmarking websites       Add your comment |