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 It’s been said that the reason change is so difficult, is because it often isn’t our idea. It’s something that is forced upon us from the outside. From either the people around us, our job, a relationship or “life” that pushes us to move out of a comfortable situation, into a position where we are faced to go down a different and often unfamiliar path.How often have we heard ourselves or others complaining about having to change? Yet as humans, we are not static. Change is occurring all of the time. Many times without us even being aware of it. It’s when change is thrust upon us, that we may withdraw or resist the reality that we are being forced to do something different. It’s interesting because I have talked to many folks who were “forced” to change and the change they were resisting ended up being the best thing that ever happened to them. For instance, they were fired from a job that was killing them, ended a relationship that was unhealthy or were forced to begin taking personal responsibility in an area that they felt powerless to yet triumphed in the end. This awareness wasn’t always immediately realized. Often, the insightful learning’s happened after an individual had time to settle into their “new” life. Once the sting of being forced into a “change“ had subsided. When I made the decision this last September, 2009, to sell my home and move, it was very difficult. I found myself wondering why I had to do this and ways that I could avoid it. Yet when I settled into the deep knowingness that I, for many years, had talked about and wanted to downsize and relocate, somehow my resistance and fear began to subside. I became at peace with what I knew was for my highest good. Ultimately, a decision that I had subconsciously made years before now was becoming a reality. The question was, how could I face this reality now that I was fully engaged in it? My continued insights throughout this year long process has encouraged me to become very honest with myself. Once I took responsibility for my change and began making proactive and positive steps forward, than the transition became easier. That’s not to say that I don’t have periods of time that I feel sadness, grief or loss, just that I am aware of those times, honor them, reach out to others and know that even though I feel uncomfortable now, the change I made was for the best. If you are currently faced with going through a challenging change that is difficult or something that you are resisting, I invite you to consider these following tips. 1. Know that as tough as the change may be, resisting it only makes it more difficult. Acknowledge the change, breathe into it and focus on being in the moment. When we are in the moment, it brings us back to the present, back to possibilities. 2. Notice when you have thoughts of what could happen, and begin to focus on what you have right now in this present moment. Do you have your breath? Do you have a roof over your head? Sometimes, it’s the small things that help us through these daunting changes. I hope that what you have read has been helpful. Please let me know any thoughts or insights that you have. I would love to hear from you. With a Grateful and Very Full Heart, Catherine Add this page to your favorite Social Bookmarking websites       Add your comment |